A man lived most of his life without a mother after she abandoned him.
Years later, she showed up at his doorstep only moments before his scheduled wedding.
A man shared his family’s story on Reddit, seeking validation from others on whether or not he did the right thing. He and his sister had no contact with their mother until she showed up unexpectedly at their house one day.
The man and his sister lived most of their lives without a mom after she abandoned them as children. At the time, she discovered she was gay and that she was no longer attracted to the siblings’ dad.
Her then-10-year-old son and then-four-year-old daughter never got a goodbye from her. She also never gave a proper explanation to her partner. Instead, she left a note.
In the note, she explained that she was in love with her girlfriend. She wished her partner well without even mentioning her son and daughter.
When the dad told his children about what’d happened, it ignited a particular hatred in his son. Growing up, he hated the LGBTQ community because it reminded him of his mother.
However, he later realized that he shouldn’t be hating them. “It was my mother who caused pain, not gay people,” he explanied.
When the man was 27, he was set to get married in a couple of months. By then, his dad remarried, and the man described. his stepmother as a “wonderful individual.” Likewise, the man’s sister was also engaged.
He told his dad that the woman was a homewrecker. Initially, his dad didn’t understand. So, his sister further explained that it was their mother’s girlfriend.
Their dad didn’t react the way they thought he would. Rather than feeling angry, he seemed rather sad.
The man noted that it was likely the trauma coming back to his dad all at once. After everyone caught wind of the situation, they looked out the window and saw the two women holding hands.
If you were in the man’s situation, what would you have done? Would you have tried to build a relationship with your mom, or would you have asked her to leave as well?
There are many forms of abandonment, but each of them hurts just as much. In one story, a grandmother appeared on her grandson’s doorstep for the first time in 25 years since his mom abandoned him.
