My husband and I, both in our 70s, bought our granddaughter a wedding gift from her registry. She accused us of being cheap after receiving it. Now, she’s upset and threatens to cut us off because we didn’t give her the cash gift we usually present to our grandkids a day before their wedding.

Our youngest granddaughter, Eloise, got married last October. We have a tradition of buying a small gift from the registry and giving a $40,000 check the day before the wedding, asking them to keep it secret. We sent an air fryer to Eloise, the cheapest item on her list.

Eloise called, accusing us of being cheap. Shocked by her reaction, I revealed our tradition, but she didn’t believe us. We then decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.

Last week, Eloise found out from her brother that our tradition was true. She called, accusing us of discrimination. We stood firm, explaining it was due to her initial disrespectful reaction. Eloise pleaded, claiming stress from wedding planning, but we emphasized the importance of respect.

Eloise threatened to boycott Christmas, and her mother sided with her, calling us unreasonable. Despite everything we’ve done for Eloise, including paying for her college and contributing to her wedding, we felt justified in our decision. Eloise and her husband are financially comfortable and don’t desperately need our money.

We love Eloise and hope this situation teaches her the value of family and respect. Though the holidays may be quieter, our door and hearts remain open, hoping for healing and understanding in the future.