I’m 26F and my mother passed away almost 3 years ago. It’s was a car crash that took everyone by surprise. She was amazing so of course my sister (23F) and I were devastated. Our dad left when my sister was still an infant so it was always just the 3 of us.

After the devastating loss of her mother, the user’s fiancé, Ben, exacerbated her grief by mishandling her mother’s ashes. Ben, influenced by his upbringing and a compulsive need for cleanliness, took it upon himself to clean the memorial area, against the user’s wishes.

In a misguided attempt to maintain cleanliness, Ben accidentally spilled the ashes onto the carpet, leading to a series of panicked decisions. Rather than confessing immediately, Ben vacuumed up the ashes and disposed of them, replacing them with ordinary sand in a desperate bid to cover up his mistake.

The user’s shock and anger are palpable as she grapples with the betrayal of trust and desecration of her mother’s memory. Ben’s inability to provide a coherent explanation only adds to her confusion and pain, leaving her questioning his motives and feeling utterly betrayed.

In the aftermath of this revelation, the user has distanced herself from Ben, seeking solace and clarity away from their shared space. Despite Ben’s tearful apologies, the user struggles to comprehend his actions and grapples with the loss of her mother all over again.

The user’s sense of betrayal is profound, as she struggles to come to terms with the fact that her fiancé would disregard her wishes and handle her mother’s remains so callously. In this moment of profound grief and betrayal, she feels utterly alone and seeks answers to the questions haunting her mind.